I am not a Victim

“When I project serenity, courage, and wisdom, they come back to me like that metal to a magnet.” – Hope For Today 

This reminds me that I can manifest anything I desire provided I take the action to project it. If I want a life filled with love, I simple show love to others.  If I want a life without resentment, I simple forgive everyone. If I want a life without drama and chaos, I simply project peace and calmness outwardly. I am not a victim. I get to choose and create what kind of life I desire, and that’s a great thing for me to remember. ILML! 

— JamieQ

I Was Helped

There comes a time… where nothing seems to go your way… to turn out right… you just can’t seem to find your place… that’s when you need someone… when all your faith is gone… feels like you can’t go on… let it be me.” — Ray Lamontagne
I heard this song on Pandora. It struck me as exactly what the program has done for me. I got to that place where I so desperately needed help and the program was there. I got hugs, nods of heads, smiles, laughs and the ability to safely tell someone all my fears and pains, and be loved and accepted. I was helped when I needed it. My Sponsor is always there for me. I am always there for my Sponsees. What a blessing and a great gift the program has been to me. It’s life changing and, because of it, ILML! 
— JamieQ

The Attitude Inventory

“Our old negative ways of handling things… not only harm us… others as well… they cut us off from God… When I am down, I need to take an inventory of my attitude” — In God’s Care

i don’t like having a bad attitude, it’s not fun for me or those around me. I always know when it’s bad – I either feel bad or others comment that in either not being very nice or don’t seem happy. When I’m sick and tired of having a bad attitude I get into action. 

Here’s how I do my written attitude inventory:
(1)  I write down how my attitude’s been and how I would like it to be. 

(2) I identify who and what I’m angry or disappointed about, recognizing that this is affecting my attitude. 

(3) I write down my part, and how I can improve & behave differently in the future.

(4)  I make a gratitude list, reminding myself that there is way more to be grateful for than upset about. 

(5) I practice detaching from toxic thoughts, situations and people, so I can stay in the attitude of gratitude and just love life! 

It works when I work it! First day beck in Maui today and ILML! 

— JamieQ

Express Gratitide

“In daily life… it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratitude that makes us happy.” – David Steindl-Rast

For me, the simple exercise to express gratitude has been, by far, the easiest way of being and staying happy. 

Writing my gratitude list down sets the tone for a grateful day. Texting my wife things about her which I’m grateful for, invites love into my marriage. Texting my friends that I’m grateful for them makes them feel good while reminding me how lucky I am to have good friends. Thanking my employees for doing a great job strengthens their commitment to our company and reminds me that I’m fortune to have them on my team. Letting my kids know how much I love them puts my focus on my gratitude for them, overpowering any feelings of frustration I may be having. 

Gratitude is an amazing tool, and the more I use it, the more ILML!

— JamieQ 

Honoring Myself

“… people are never perfect… ” – Tom Robbins, Attitudes of Gratitude in Love 

I wasted much of my life trying to find the perfect person, in romance, business and friendship. My focus was on getting people (places and things) to change so I could be happy. In program I learned that the only way to create lasting happiness was to do the work to better myself and help others. 

But sometimes those I love do things that hurt me. I’ve learned that rather than engaging or asking them to stop, I simply help them understand what’s uncomfortable to me. I do that by (1) letting them know what behavior is uncomfortable, (2) explaining that they can continue but I will quickly detach from them when that behavior happens, and then (3) consistently, quickly and temporarily detach (as kindly as possible) when they behave in that way. This shows them that I am honoring myself and encourages them to honor me too if they would like to be in my company. It works when I work it, and lately, I’ve been working it. As a result, ILML!

— JamieQ

Let Things Unfold

“I will pray to let go of my own rigidity…” — Courage to Change 

To me, righteousness, know-it-all-ism, and wanting things to go my way, are all interchangeable ideas. When I’m too rigid in my attitudes and expectations, things tend to break-down in my life. Like a little kid yelling “It’s my way or the highway!“, I push against the world rather than going with the flow. Damaging my relationships with others, I miss out on opportunities, creating unnecessary work and stress. On the other hand, when I let things unfold without trying to control and manage every detail, I’m often pleasantly surprised and life goes a lot smoother. Today I’ll relax, get out of the drivers seat and just LML!

— JamieQ 

Life will Change

“… the change taking place is good.” —The Language of Letting Go 

I really take time to enjoy those things that are comfortable, the ones that make me smile and feel happy, knowing they won’t always be there, that life will change. 

And those things that are scary and uncomfortable don’t feel so heavy anymore because, again, I know they won’t be there forever, life will change. 

I’m learning to understand, accept and actually embrace change because I know that my Higher Power has amazing lessons, experiences, growth, and fun awaiting me around the next corner. Life is unfolding exactly according to his plans and today I’m very cool with that. ILML!

— JamieQ