Living Abundantly

“I learn to combine initiative with humility, responsibility with thankfulness, and thus relish the joys of living my 24 hour program.”

- Daily Reflections 3/30/15

To me this quote is talking about being of service, humility, and getting myself into action by just suiting up and showing up for my program on a daily basis. 

Along with my daily actions such as going to meetings, doing spiritually, praying/meditating, sharing with my sponsor, etc. I exercise humility and connect to a power greater than myself. 

Taking these actions is me surrendering my will and aligns me with God’s will which opens me up to living abundantly thus being happy, joyous, and free. I’m going to stay in the solution today love my life.

— JasonW

A Giant Weighted Cape

“Intimacy involves sharing my deepest fears and secrets while trusting the other person will accept them.” – Hope For Today 

It wasn’t until coming into the program and confiding in a sponsor that I finally felt I could be 100% forthright about everything I felt, thought and did in my life. 

Revealing it all in my 5th step was like a giant weighted cape being lifted of my shoulders. My daily program, having a Higher Power I trust, and keeping my side of the street clean helps keep the load off my back. 

I’m grateful that I have someone to whom I can be rigorously honest with, who doesn’t judge or shame me, but rather helps me find my way when I am lost. Thank you Dan. ILML! 

— JamieQ

Right Giving Creates Love

“…the secret of happiness is in giving. It is the heart and soul of our spiritual life.” — In God’s Care

I love helping others, giving gifts, doing random acts of kindness, and giving to those in need. I’m a helper at heart. 

While giving is great, I’ve learned that there are situations in which it causes more damage than good. 

With the exception of supervising at work or with young children, when I try to manage, direct or control someone else’s affairs, without being asked to do so, that behavior is harmful to both of us. 

In the past, I’ve used the excuse of “being helpful” to justify this behavior. The truth is, “helping” gives me a sense of superiority by having the answer or knowing the “right” way someone else should do something. Attempting to get others to do things my way only gives me the illusion of control and safety, while others rebel against my dominance and righteousness. My goal is to love and be loved – but this behavior actually does the opposite — it pushes people away. 

And rescuing others from the consequences of their actions, in the name of “being of service o” deprives them of the ability to understand the harm they’ve done, learn from it, and grow into a more responsible, happier person. My unsolicited help deprives them of that opportunity. 

Likewise, when I give to others at the expense of taking care of myself, depriving me of those things that make me feel comfortable and safe, I’m bound to be hurt. 

Right giving creates love for me and others. It comes from a genuine desire to do what’s best for others, only when it’s appropriate for me to help, when I’m welcomed to do so, and provided that I am concurrently taking care of myself spiritually, emotionally and physically. 

Today I will give to others when it’s truly in everyone’s best interest. ILML! 

— JamieQ

I Have A Choice

“I can choose to let it define me, confine me, refine me, outshine me, or I can choose to move on and leave it behind me.” – Anonymous

When anything happens to me, I have a choice: hold onto it or let it go. These days I do as the program suggests: I take what I like and leave the rest. Alanon taught me to detach from toxic thoughts, behaviors, people and experiences. I can learn from every experience I have, but I get to choose what memories I hold on to. I love keeping my focus on the good ones and ILML!

— JamieQ

“What if… 

“What if… we knew everything was okay, and we didn’t have to worry about a thing?… We’d be free to let go and enjoy life.” – The Language of Letting Go 

Worrying about things makes me fearful. “What’s gonna happen if…?”. It’s also living in the future – and focusing on an unpleasant possibility. Instead, it’s much better for me to stay in the present by appreciating what’s all around me. The sunshine, blue sky, trees, etc. And when I really feel the need to take a trip into the future, I may as well focus on the wonderful possibilities. After all, if it’s true that we manifest our lives, I’d rather manifest happiness. Awoke super early, weeded my yard and ILML! 

— JamieQ

“… to grow spiritually, to gain peace of mind — relinquishing our self-will must be one habitual.” In God’s Care

I was recently talking to a friend about spiritually awakening. I love that phrase. To awaken to the spiritual wonderment that is life itself. But when I’m too focused on trying to make sure it all goes according to my plans (self-will), my vision narrows and peace often alludes me. Today I will make plans but then relax, breath and let life flow the way it wants to. I love feeling peaceful and ILML!  

Red Traffic Light

“I can stay angry, or I can use it as a signal that I need to change” Hope For Today 

Yesterday I got a call from a Sponsee. He said that he had gotten into a verbal altercation with an old Korean woman who refused to pay $1.21 for her coffee, because she thought it was 99¢. After minutes of her abuse to the cashier he lost it. During our call he had to go because the police were calling him. He later told me the police said “maybe next time you ought to just walk away?”

My anger is a like a red traffic light saying stop or you may get into an accident. Today, if I get angry, I’ll do just that. Stop. Detach. Breath. But luckily, right now, I’m not angry and ILML!