Building Blocks of Success

“A person who makes no mistakes usually does not make anything.” – Alcoholism, the Family Disease

Getting upset about  mistakes just fuels my self-pity. Instead, I recognize that mistakes are the building blocks for my success. For me, it’s trickier when others make mistakes. I’m quick to judge and then try to fix them. It might be ok with kids and employees, but not so much with everyone else. Today I’ll aim to allow my friends and loved ones to make mistakes and remember that their mistakes are the building blocks for their success. I love my continuing education in recovery and ILML!  

- JamieQ

Lifeline Back to Sanity

“When you are grateful, fear disappears, and abundance appears” 

- Tony Robbins

I’ve discovered that, for me at least, there is no better way to get out of a funk than to get into gratitude. But when I’ve gone over the cliff and into the darkness, it’s often hard to find my way back. That’s why being involved in the fellowship and leaning on others that love me and will guide me home to gratitude is so critical. The people in the rooms are sometimes my only lifeline back to sanity. I’m so grateful they are there for me, and I’m there for them. ILML!



Shame into Flame

“The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.” – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Courage to Change says that shame is hating ourselves for something we did or didn’t do in the past. Think about that. Being upset about the past to the extent that we can’t feel good about ourselves today. This distorted thinking poisons our lives, and no one can eradicate the shame we live with except us. 

Take this challenge with me. Let’s make today the day we finally, once and for all, let go of every perceived mistake we’ve ever made in our lives – they no longer serve us. 

Join me in writing down all our mistakes. Every bad decision we think we’ve made. Every missed opportunity we think we could have had. Everything we think we did wrong. All this negativity we’ve been hanging onto. Now let’s set that paper on fire, while saying  “I forgive me”, until all those mistakes that caused us guilt, shame and regret are gone. 

Now we can celebrate our newfound freedom. Today we begin our lives shame-free. ILML! 

JamieQ





Focusing on Love

“Love with all my heart, with all my soul, with all my mind.” – 12 Step Prayer Book 

Before the program, if you asked me, as a child, how my parents treated me, I would have pointed out all the things the did wrong. Today my focus is on all the good things, both in my past and present. I was a very lucky boy because my parents were super loving. They talked about the importance of love. My dad even told me that God was love. 

So today I think, above all, being loving, and focusing on love, is of vital importance to my happiness. And that’s another reason why ILML!

- JamieQ

Focus on Appreciation

“… allow the river of appreciation to flow…” -Attitudes of Gratitude in Love

Yesterday a Sponsee read me his journal. It reminded me of how I used to journal – honestly about things that troubled me and character defects I wanted to eradicate. I asked him to switch it up. 

This morning he read me what he wrote. It was all about positive affirmations, gratitude and a couple challenges followed by faith that it will work out. He was really happy. 

When we focus on appreciation and the good stuff, life just gets way more fun. ILML!

Living the Dream

“… today, well lived, makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, and every tomorrow a vision of hope.” – 12 Step Prayer Book

What a wonderful thought for a beautiful morning. If only I insist on being grateful today, staying in the solution, being of service, and connecting with my higher power, this day will be amazing. And then tomorrow I’ll look back at this day, and forward to tomorrow, and smile, knowing how lucky I am to be alive and living the dream. ILML!

– JamieQ

Pen to Paper

“A business which takes no regular inventory usually goes broke”
– AA Pg. 64

Pen to paper takes it out of my head. Whatever is in there that’s messing with me — usually something, someone’s behavior, or mine. It identifies where I have the opportunity to make amends and forgive. Taking those actions then release me from feeling badly.

That’s why I strive to journal every day — to clear away the wreckage that’s upsetting me. When I take the time to take care of me, regardless of what happens outside of my hula hoop, ILML!

– JamieQ

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