“…the more I’m willing to act differently, the more exciting my life is. The more I am willing to help others, the more rewards I receive. Fun and benefits are in the willingness to do the actions, not to get immediate results.” – DtR p109
I have to remember to just take the next correct indicated action and trust that my HP will provide me with what I need. Today I will do my best to not worry about the future or the past and simply take the necessary actions to stay out of self. Ilml! – Jason
“Above all, don’t be passive aggressive. Don’t acquiesce for now but get back at your partner later. And don’t go along with it on private but complain about it to your friends. Take a leadership role in your own life while your partner is doing whatever they are doing with their life.” – You Can’t Make Me Angry p106
Good reminder for me to be assertive and work a program in the way that I take care of myself so I can keep my side of the street clean and stay serene and in solution. I cannot afford to live in self will, ego, revenge, and resentment. Ilml! – Jason
“It is only when I have experienced enough emotional pain, through failed attempts to fix myself, that I become willing to surrender to God’s will for my life. Surrender is like the calm after the storm. When my will is in line with God’s will for me, there is peace within.” Drop the Rock, p77
This has to be true for me or I am not at peace. Several things lately have made me upset and unhappy. I have to believe that these circumstances are put in my life for nothing less than the best possible scenario for having an amazing life. It’s difficult to see that sometimes; but when I do, I always love my life.
“Discouragement is a warning signal that I may have wandered across the God line. The secret of fulfilling my potential is in acknowledging my limitations and believing that time is a gift, not a threat. May I always remember that the power within me is far greater than any fear before me. May I always have patience, for I am on the right road.” – Drop the Rock – pg 70
Good reminder for me. I often think I have to make up for lost time, being I was lost in my addiction for so many years. I have found patience and serenity through working the steps which has allowed me to regain what I had and receive what I never thought I could have. This happens only when I seek a HP and find the power within me, work steps, and live by these principles. When I don’t, I’m discouraged, back to fighting the universe. I have to work for my daily reprieve. Ilml!! – Jason
“When I face a decision, whether it involves dealing with a alcoholic, accepting a job offer, or making plans for the evening, I ask for guidance. Faith takes practice. Step 3 suggests I teach myself, from this moment on, to be receptive, to open myself to help from my Higher Power.” – C2C p59
When I take the actions to stay connected to a HP, I have a better life. It’s that simple. My continued efforts to seek a HP is one of my greatest assets. Ilml! – Jason
“As we work the Program, we find that the basic antidote for fear is a spiritual awakening. We lose fear of making decisions, for we realize that if our choices prove wrong, we can learn from the experience. Freedom is choosing.” – A Day at a Time, Feb 23
This is good for me. I often am very indecisive for I think the decision has to be the perfect decision. I can go round and round for days and weeks over something. If I trust my higher power and stay connected, whatever decision I make is the right one, it really just depends upon my perspective. Ilml!
“…when we get stuck in a rut of negativity about our mate, all the loving things that he or she is actually doing may be invisible to us. Assume the best about your partner. Otherwise you may end up throwing away something of value because you have deemed it worthless.” – YCMMA p92
This is very important for me in all relationships. When I focus on good, good happens. Along with setting healthy boundaries, it seems good relationships are inevitable with this attitude. Ilml!
“in order to truly practice gratitude in love, we have to know where our limits are, what is acceptable to us. Sometimes for our own good and the good of the family, we must turn our attention to the negative behavior and set a boundary – beyond this I will not go.” – Attitudes of Gratitude p88
I have learned in the Program to set boundaries. I didn’t set boundaries nor did I respect others boundaries before. My relationships then were dysfunctional to say the least. This quote is a good reminder for me. Ilml!
“If I want to become skillful at applying the program to my life, I need to do more than go to the occasional meeting. I must make a commitment and practice, practice, practice.” – C2C p46
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle
My life has changed dramatically from practicing the principles of this program. The guidance I get from my sponsors and meetings is what has given me the tools to practice. I’m grateful I was desperate enough and have been willing to take direction for many years. Ilml!
“Detachment allows us to let go of our obsession with another’s behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights, lives guided by a Power greater than ourselves.”
I have a person in my life whose behavior I do not agree with. So, detachment and acceptance is my only answer. I was bothered yesterday but not today. I am serene and happy. The Program allows me to handle situations that used to baffle me…or really piss me off. Ilml!