In the Blink of an Eye

“We all had to place recovery above everything, for without recovery we would have lost both home and business”. AA p. 143

Two nights ago I was at a pre-prom party for my daughter. Talking with her softball coaches, I watched as they drank champagne with a quart bottle of Jack Daniels next to us. Yesterday I was at a friends house while some people smoked pot outside. Drugs and alcohol are abundant, all around me, and easy to access at any moment. 

This amazing life I’ve built — as a direct result of staying sober, and putting my recovery first — could disappear in the blink of an eye. I never forget how lucky I am and how critical it is to stay super close to my program and HP. I don’t ever want to go back again. ILML! 

— JamieQ

The Good Stuff

“Naturally, we will make mistakes and fail from time to time… We do not have to shame ourselves.” — The Language of Letting Go

This morning, in discussing with a friend how we sometimes make resolutions that we fail to stick with, I said “Sometimes we’re so hard on ourselves we make it impossible to be happy.” 

I realize that it’s also true that sometimes I’m so hard on others that I make it impossible for me, or them, to be happy. So today I’ll stop being so hard on me and everyone else. Instead, I’ll just lighten up and be grateful for the good stuff. That way, i can stay in a place where ILML! 

— JamieQ

PTKL

“… patience, tolerance, kindliness and love…” AA Big Book

Great concepts to live by, but what about when I’m so patient & tolerant that I feel like a doormat? I’ve come to understand that this only happens when I’ve failed to identify my boundaries and taken appropriate action to detach when they are crossed. I practice these principles with others, but not if doing so is unkind & unloving towards me. Being tolerant, compassionate & helpful while concurrently taking care of myself is a like performing a graceful balancing act, but I’m getting better at it every day. ILML! 

— JamieQ

The Upsetting Truth

“It’s our ego that fights giving up control…” — In God’s Care

Whenever I’m disturbed, some dark part of me invites and encourages me to focus on the upsetting truth for a long time. The truth is… they hurt me…. I’m not feeling good… it’s not fair. But the real truth is that I don’t want to focus on the problem, I want to be in the solution. 

Today, I’ll give myself one minute – 60 seconds –  to focus on any uncomfortable thought, feeling or situation that may come up. After that, I’ll refocus my attention on the solution. And if there’s no apparent solution, I’ll hand it off to God. 

Employing simple life loving strategies like this is one more reason why ILML!

— JamieQ

I Love To…

“… start doing things that make us feel good.” — The Language of Letting Go

Regardless of how much there is to do and how much work I have, life is a bummer if I don’t do things I enjoy. My list of fun things are playing the guitar, getting to meetings, skateboarding, laughing with my wife, having fun with my kids, surfing, running, hiking, going to the beach, taking a bath, and reading spy novels. Of course I take care of my work and responsibilities, but these days I don’t let even one day go by without making sure I do some fun things. Making time to have fun each day is one of the reasons why ILML. Hit me up and tell me a few things you love to do? 

— JamieQ

My Un-Understanding

“We are fortunate to have found in our program an answer to the malaise that afflicts so many people. In its simplest form, it’s called love; in its purest form, God.” — In God’s Care

I am far from a religionist, but I sure do love having a consistent spiritual connection with a Higher Power of my Un-Understanding. I was encouraged in the program to choose my concept of God, and my choice was Love. My God is love along with all the goodness, kindness, gratitude, sweetness, wonder, helpfulness, empathy and joy in the world. I want to channel all those things every day, and although at times I slip away from them, I always come back home to love. On my way to LA today and ILML!  

— JamieQ

I am not a Victim

“When I project serenity, courage, and wisdom, they come back to me like that metal to a magnet.” – Hope For Today 

This reminds me that I can manifest anything I desire provided I take the action to project it. If I want a life filled with love, I simple show love to others.  If I want a life without resentment, I simple forgive everyone. If I want a life without drama and chaos, I simply project peace and calmness outwardly. I am not a victim. I get to choose and create what kind of life I desire, and that’s a great thing for me to remember. ILML! 

— JamieQ