Put the Horse Before the Cart

“Our desires for emotional security and wealth… Cannot be the sole end aim of our lives… place spiritual growth first…” 12&12 p114

The desire for money, romance, and other things was rooted in my belief that having those things would for sure make me happy. But I had it backwards. These days I make getting spiritually centered my priority, and I instantly feel more fulfilled and at peace, which is attractive to others, both in business and relationships. I no longer need to wait until I get what I want to be happy, I’m happy regardless, because I took the time to plug into source. If I get some of that other stuff today, awesome. If not, that’s cool too because I put the horse before the cart and, as a result, ILML!

Into their Tornado

“Staying focused on my journey of recovery, plus turning the outside world over to God, equals … Inviting serenity’s peace to embrace me.” Hope For Today

My old behavior, when confronted with difficult situations involving others, was to express my feelings and thoughts – in other words, take a step forward into their tornado. It’s no wonder finding peace was challenging. My program suggests things like pausing when agitated, meditating, and not giving unsolicited advice or opinions. When I choose the path of least resistance, I am choosing a life of happiness rather than chaos. Today I will not insert myself into the drama, and by refraining from doing so, I’ll reminded myself that ILML!

It Really is that Simple

“The task is, for everything you wish were different, you remember something that you would never want to be different.” Attitudes of Gratitude in Love

Have you ever met someone who often talks about something they wish were different, but which the have absolutely no power to control. “I wish I never —“, “I wish so & so would —“, “I wish this wasn’t —“? More importantly, when was the last time you felt like this? It’s been said many different ways, but the truth is that what we focus on defines how we feel and what kind of life we manifest. Today I’ll take MJ Ryan’s suggestion, and if I find myself obsessively thinking (or speaking) about something I want to change but have no control over, I’ll consciously let it go and instead think about something I’m grateful for. It really is that simple. And doing this will quickly get me back into the zone where ILML!

- JamieQ

Open up the Window

“… the minute I close my channels with sorrow for myself, or being hurt by, or resentful toward anyone, I am in horrible danger.” Big Book

Last night I closed the channels. I wasn’t able to restrain my mouth when I got angry. Today I am suffering from the emotional hangover. Luckily I have a program that shows me the way back when I slip. Working the 10th & 11th steps helps me open up the window to allow the sunlight of the spirit back into my life, reminding me that ILML!

Freedom, Happiness & Service

“I am free, I am happy, and perhaps I am going to have the blessed opportunity of “passing it on.” Big Book, A Feminine Victory

After reading that, I was thinking about those three ideas. Freedom – from the active disease dominating my every waking moment. Yes, I’m free of that. Happiness – mine has come from really working the program in my life. It’s a happiness that I never thought I could achieve. And finally, passing it on. I’m so lucky that others have blessed me by asking me to share my experience, strength & hope with them. I truly love this life which the program has given me!

- JamesQ

No Blame = No Victim

“When we forgive… we set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner we set free is us.” – The Art of Forgiveness

We all get hurt, but it is so hard to forgive when the hurt is repetitive or deep. Have you ever noticed how blaming and victimhood go hand-in-hand? My secret backdoor to forgiving is to stop blaming.

No Blame = No Victim.

I’m not always ready to say “I forgive you” or “accept” their behavior. But I can always become aware of blaming (in my mind or out loud), and simply stop it. This frees me from replaying the injury over and over again and remaining a victim. I love living in the solution and ILML!

- JamieQ

Stop Behaving that Way

“Your willingness to look at your darkness is what empowers you to change.” Iyanla Vanzant

This is the central theme behind steps 4-10. Looking for what I don’t like about how I behave opens me to the possibility to stop behaving that way. Think about it for a second. Wouldn’t it be great to always behave in a way that would make you and those that love you proud? I would. That’s why I’m on this path — to become the best me I can be. One thought, one word and one action at a time. Grateful that I’ve taken a breath in this busy life to share this moment with you. ILML!