Can Change – Can’t Change

“Fear is the energy that activates my character defects… What triggers my fear…? Trying to control… I make a list, with one column titled “can change” and another titled “can’t change.” – Hope For Today 8/15

I read this with my Sponsee Richie yesterday and it makes a lot of sense. If I find myself struggling, I’ll whip out my pen, make these two lists, direct my attention to the “Can Change List” and give my HP the “Can’t Change List”. Just one more tool to invite serenity back in. ILML!

- JamesQ

The Winning Side

“… until you heal the wounds of the past, you will continue to bleed…” – Iyanla Vanzant’s Yesterday, I Cried

That’s the beauty of steps 4-9. When used as a daily tool they are a formula to heal all pain quickly and stay healthy. Burying pain only leads to bleeding ulcers from suppressing my dis-ease. Left unchecked it grows into an emotional and physical cancer. But when I acknowledge & accept that I am hurt, then take action to resolve it with my program tools and HP, I stop the bleeding, often before it starts. Magically, once again, I join the winning side and, again, get to love my life!

Miracle Grow

“Where there is hatred, let me sow love”. – Excerpt from the Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi out of the 12 Step Prayer Book

When it comes right down to it, if this is my real true goal, to always bring love, not just where there is hatred but into every action, word and thought I have, I can continue to skyrocket through this amazing life I’ve been given. Love is the miracle grow for this life beyond my wildest dreams. I hope I never stop spreading it around. ILML!

Without Expectations

“I am careful to remember that self-satisfaction, which sometimes comes through the spoken forgiveness of those I have harmed, is not my true objective. I become willing to make amends, knowing that through this process I am mended and made fit to move forward, to know and desire God’s will for me.”
– Daily Reflections 8/2

I believe this program turns our selfish and self-seeking behavior into actions taken to connect to a higher power and build our spiritual life. I remember thinking at one time that if I didn’t act selfishly I wouldn’t get what I wanted. It turns out it’s the opposite. When I take actions to seek God’s will without expectations of what I will receive I open myself up for abundance in every area of my life. Making amends and truly showing that humility keeps me happy, joyous, and free one day at a time. ILML!

- JasonW

Living These Words

“Courtesy, kindness, justice, and love are the keynotes by which we may come into harmony with practically anybody.” 12&12p93

I often wonder why these ideas were never taught in school. In my opinion, this idea is fundamental to achieving any sort of success in life. How to get along with almost anyone – such a simple and profound recipe. Today I have so many rich relationships with others as a result of living these words, and coupling them with those on page 118 of the Big Book “Patience, tolerance, understanding and love are the watchwords”. This program has given me friends, children, and a wife beyond my wildest dreams. ILML!

Prepared to Handle Adversity

“… help me use my experiences to move forward and to make healthier, more loving choices…” Courage to Change

By applying this idea to those difficult and often painful events in my past, I can easily see how those experiences helped to shape the choices I’ve made since. But the bigger value in this message is the application to future events.

As I face difficulties, I can use it to remember that everything I will go through in life has the ability to help me grow into a better person. From this day forth, I will become more aware of this goal during each and every moment in my life, particularly the tough ones. I will look for something I can learn from in every interaction and experience that doesn’t meet with my preconceived expectations or hopes.

I will be better prepared to handle adversity with the knowledge that this uncomfortable moment can really help me for the rest of my life. In those uncomfortable moments that surely will come, I will give up my old reactions of blame and self-pity and exchange them for the the awareness that I am about to learn something that will help me make better choices. Now I have something great to look forward to, no matter how life goes! ILML!

From a Boy to a Man

“The challenge of the seventh tradition as a personal challenge, reminding me to share and give of myself. Before sobriety the only thing I ever supported was my habit of drinking. Now my efforts are a smile, a kind word, and kindness.”
– Daily Reflections 729

By being self-supporting through my own contributions I am able to lead by example and give of myself to others opposed to being a “taker”as I was as a using person. I can be of maximum service, and my self-esteem skyrockets. I open myself up to abundance no matter how much money I make, it’s spiritual action like praying and meditating. Because of sobriety I have gone from a boy to a man. ILML!

- JasonW