Sticking My Hand Out

From Courage to Change: “My best hope for helping those I love really does begin when I focus on myself.”

Boy, do I like to think I have the answers for everyone in my life. How far from the truth that actually is! Today I know that my maximum effectiveness is only met when I start with myself. Doing my spiritual work, touching base with the big Gee Ohh Dee, and sticking my hand out to another allows me to make a difference in the lives of those I come in contact with. iLmL

– RichieB

It Feels Impossible

From Until Today! “In that moment, when there is nothing standing between you and the thing you fear the most, you will be forced to step into your greatness, because that is what life is demanding of you.”

I can get with that. In the moment it feels impossible, but looking back, I’ve walked through everything life asked of me. Not so gracefully at times and with a great deal of support, but despite all that here I am… LOVING MY LIFE!!! iLmL

– RichieB

I Surrendered my Intellect

“.. we may face indecision… ask God for inspiration… relax and take it easy… don’t struggle.” AA page 86

A little more than 10 years after I got sober I found a personal higher power that I could relate to and develop a relationship with. Until that point, I didn’t have a God to depend upon for inspiration. I’m so grateful I surrendered my intellect long enough to open my heart to the concept of a God.

Today, whatever I’m struggling with, I have the option to cease fighting, let go and turn it over to my HP. What a gift – the easier softer way… ILML!

– JamieQ

Expand the Goodness

“We tend to bond with one another over our complaints about our spouses… But why does it have to be that way? What if we were to broadcast all the ways our partner was wonderful?… great things would begin to happen.” – Attitudes of Gratitude in Love

I sent this to my wife today. She loved it. Our goal is to expand the goodness in our marriage, and do everything we can to make sure that we don’t sabotage our love.

The suggestion in the passage above is just one more way we can do exactly that. By talking to others about the great things my wife does for me, what a wonderful person she is, and how lucky I am that she chose me, I can manifest the exact type of relationship I want.

This is exactly why I love all the readings I do each day – they focus my mind on all the goodness that has been so generously shared with me by others. ILML!

– JamieQ

I’m Aware it’s Dangerous

“… The choice is mine. When I sense that a situation is dangerous to my physical, mental, or spiritual well-being, I can put extra distance between myself and the situation… Detachment is a loving gift I continue to give to myself and others.” – Courage to Change

Wow. This is probably the best way I’ve heard detachment explained. It doesn’t matter if the danger comes from a situation, another person, or even the way I’m thinking or acting. If I’m aware it’s dangerous, then I detach and turn to my HP, I can stay out of trouble and be happier. Great advice and another way ILML!

– JamieQ

A 3 Step Process

“In my experience, most of our anxieties and worries come from issues we do not have control over… the source of our inner peace – acceptance.” –

There’s a 3 step process I use which has eradicate almost all unhappiness in my life. When a problem comes up or I feel uncomfortable: (1) I say to myself “this will get resolved” (2) Then I take whatever action is in my power to resolve it, provided my actions are kind and loving (3) and finally I say “Here God, the rest I give to you”. I may still get upset from time to time, but I don’t really suffer much anymore.

Next time you feel uncomfortable or have a problem give it a try. Pretty soon, like me, you’ll be telling everyone, ILML!

– JamieQ

Loving and Honoring Me

“… when the applause of others becomes the reason for my behavior and necessary for me to feel satisfied, then I have given them power over me.” – Courage to Change

Wanting others to like me is normal. I don’t find anything wrong with this desire. But sacrificing what’s important to me, pretending to be ok in situations that are not ok, in order to fit in or gain approval, that doesn’t work for me anymore.

Today I have values and live by them. When uncomfortable I say what I mean, mean what I say, and try to say it nicely. I set healthy boundaries and take action when those boundaries are not respected. I love and honor others but not at the expense of loving and honoring me.

And thanks to this program, and me working it, ILML!

– JamieQ