Learning to Play Nice

“Making myself available to help and be helped by a wide range of people is a key to my recovery.” – Hope For Today 
How did the program help me love my life? After getting sober, working the steps with a sponsor and finding my higher power, I then began to use the tools in all areas of my life on a daily basis. Doors of abundance opened and my life became rich with the relationships I’ve developed in and out of the rooms. Learning to play nice with others is one of the greatest gifts I’ve received. ILML!

– JamieQ


No Big Deals

“The pain is not in the surrender and acceptance. It’s in the resistance.” – Hope for Today
Here’s how it works for me. First, some person, place, thing or situation doesn’t meet my ‘reasonable’ expectation. Next, I’m upset and would like to get what I want. Finally, I try to change that person, place, thing or situation, while hopefully remaining sane, calm and kind. This is normal, and, in my opinion, even healthy. The problem occurs when my efforts fail. At that point, as long as I don’t keep trying to control it or them, I experience just a little pain. It’s only when I’m unwilling to surrender my efforts at control, until I get my way, that the real suffering begins. Today, I choose to surrender and remember there are no big deals, except that ILML! 

– JamieQ


Just Seconds

… and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” – AA p.59 (and in Daily Reflections p. 290)

One of the wonderful benefits of consistently and diligently applying program solutions to my problems is that the amount of time I stay in suffering as a result of uncomfortable situations is continually getting shorter and shorter. In the past I could suffer for hours, days or even weeks over something. These days it’s usually minutes at most, and more often just seconds. Part of the reason is that I make immediate amends as often as possible, resulting in the dissipation of both my guilt and attachment to the problem. I love using all the gifts of the program, and ILML! 

— JamieQ


A Secure Financial Future

“Self-esteem will increase when we increase our sense of being financially responsible for ourselves.” – The Language of Letting Go 
I wasn’t raised in a household where fiscal responsibility was modeled to me. I had some examples of earning money but none that showed me how to conserve or retain it. Rather, what I mostly remember was spending – and lots of it. So it’s not surprising that I generally have bought myself and my family most anything we’ve wanted – I’ve always figured, oh well, I’ll put it on a credit card and just have to make more money. As a result, I’ve always felt under the gun. These days I’m beginning to have some restraint on spending in order that I may build a secure financial future that can last the rest of my life (46 years more). I’m not getting any younger but I can surely get even happier. ILML! 

My Higher Power’s Love

“Instead of regarding the satisfaction of our material desires as the means by which we could live and function as human beings, we had taken these satisfactions to be the final end and aim of life.” – 12&12 p.71
The idea that the attainment of “more” would make me happy, actually left me always falling short of my own expectations. With my new vision statement, which contains clear objectives with regard to material goals, I finally have clear goals, and I’m taking daily action to achieve my vision, while recognizing that the greatest gift is simply being a conduit of my higher power’s love everyday. ILML! 

— JamieQ

Everlasting Happiness

“… we are still tempted to look outside of ourselves for happiness… What we can depend on to fill our emptiness are our own unselfish acts on behalf of others.” – In God’s Care
We’ve been told that once we make enough money, buy the big home, have the right partner, get what’s missing in our life, we’ll finally be happy. I disagree. That stuff is great but isn’t my answer to everlasting happiness. Helping others just because I want to be loving is what makes me really happy. In fact, it’s the main reason why ILML! 


Recover, Restore & Renew

“… I must STEP my way past emotion turmoil…” – Daily Reflections
That statement gives me great hope that I don’t need to stay in, or even go into, emotional turmoil. But how do I avoid it, or get out of it when I step into it? My fist course of action is to pause when agitated. Just knowing that I need to pause, isn’t enough though – I must practice it thousands of times until it becomes automatic. And when I do forget to pause, finding myself in dis-ease, I try to detach quickly so I can recover my peace as fast as possible. Then, I make direct amends to restore my self-esteem. I love how this process renews me and ILML!