Like a Fire Extinguisher

“Resentment… From it stem all forms of spiritual disease… If I continue to relive hurts and hate, I will hurt and hate myself.” – Daily Reflections

Resentment is a big word. So let’s simplify it. In short, resentment means ANY all ALL feelings of upsettedness. Period. It’s being upset about something, someone or even our own behavior, thoughts or feelings. But wait, isn’t it ok to get upset? Of course! The question is, is it healthy to STAY upset? No!!! Staying upset makes us sick. Emotionally, spiritually and often physically. So the moment I feel upset I pick up some tools from the spiritual toolkit I’ve put together and invite love and gratitude. Like a fire extinguisher it puts out the flames of resentment and once again ILML! 

– JamieQ

Poof! Self-pity Disappears

“Self-pity is one of the most unhappy and consuming defects that we know. It is a bar to all spiritual progress…” Daily Reflections

A common saying in AA sums it up like this: “Poor me. Poor me. Pour me another drink.” Self-pity, victimhood, silent scorn and martyrdom all share in common a miserable set of thoughts, feelings and actions: “I am unhappy; it’s not fair, why me?; it’s hopeless; I’m a loser; I’ve failed myself; I’m failing others; this is horrible; I’m going to hide out; I’ll never be happy; and, what’s the point.” I’ve never met anyone that hasn’t been there before. The good news is THERE IS A SOLUTION. The moment I even sense self-pity creeping in I grab my spiritual backpack (which is always close), read some motivations, reach out to help someone who needs help and poof, self-pity disappears and once again, ILML! 

– JamieQ

Unconditional Lover

“I do not love in order that I may be loved back again, but for the creative joy of loving.” – Attitudes of Gratitude in Love 

Prior to fully immersing myself into my daily recovery practices, I loved others, in large part, so that they would love me. I thought, “If only they would love me, I would be happy.” The problem with this thinking is that expectation leads to resentment, particularly when it comes to loving. These days I love not so much to be loved by others (though that’s nice too), but to love myself. In other words, when I practice loving others with no expectation of love in return, I love who I am. And loving the man I’ve become – an unconditional lover – is a big reason why ILML! 💜

– JamieQ

Go With The Flow

“Today, I will relax, breathe, and go with the flow.” – The Language of Letting Go, April 12th

Each morning I read out of my spiritual backpack. Many books are daily readers, meaning I turn to today’s date and read the page. But occasionally what’s on today’s date doesn’t resonate, so I break the rules — I read another date. I used to be so rigid in my discipline I wouldn’t allow myself to do this. These days, when I don’t enjoy the page I’m reading, I relax, breathe, read another page and go with the flow. This easier, softer, more flexible attitude helps insure that ILML!

– JamieQ

57,600 Seconds

“… daily life gives us hundreds of opportunities to… shine with the glow of thankfulness and joy…” – Attitudes of Gratitude in Love

If we are awake 16 hours a day, we have 57,600 seconds to live. In the course of each one of those seconds is the opportunity for action, thought, feeling and words. In each second we can smile, think about how blessed we are, feel the warm feeling that comes from knowing we are loved by others, or say something kind to another. Alternatively we can frown, focus on our problems, feel like a victim or tell someone we are unhappy with them. We get to choose, and how we choose to spend each of those 57,600 seconds today will profoundly impact each future moment. Today I will try to spend each second in love and gratitude in order to manifest a life beyond my wildest dreams. ILML!

– JamieQ

Say a Tiny Prayer Please

“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.”– Arnold Schwarzenegger

I have struggled in my life from time to time, both emotionally and physically. I’ve endured levels of pain that actually caused me to blackout, and endured illness that’s lasted weeks. But right now I have a friend going through the most excruciating physical struggle of his life. His pain is not only as severe as it gets, but it’s been going on for a very, very long time. Today be grateful that, with any struggles you may have, that you are not facing his. And if you would close your eyes now please and say a tiny prayer of healing for my anonymous friend, I’d be eternally grateful. Because of all of you, ILML! 

– JamieQ

Key to my Success

“Unclasp your hold on material things, relax your grip, and the tide of peace and serenity will flow in. Relinquish every material thing and receive it back again from God. Do not hold onto earths treasures so firmly that your hands are too occupied to clasp God’s hands as he holds them out to you in love.”– 24 Hours a Day 4/5

This is tough for me, to unclasp my hold on material things. I have a lot of material items but I want a lot more. But I do know that through letting go and having faith in a higher power that I’ve been able to say clean and sober for over 12 years. If letting go and surrendering to my higher power is the key to my success, then I guess letting go of my material desires and just taking the next right indicated action would be just as effective. I pray today that I can tear my hands off of my materialism and have faith in my higher power instead and know that I will be taken care of, that I will get exactly what I am supposed to have. Grateful to be part of the solution. ILML!

– JasonW