I See Problems as Gifts

Problems are inevitable… The good news is that for every problem, there’s a solution… Sometimes the solution involves letting go.” – The Language of Letting Go 

I loved that reading today. It reminded me that there will ALWAYS be problems, but that I needn’t ever be upset, frustrated, discouraged or hurt because of them. Instead I can look at problems as opportunities to learn, evolve and practice the principles of my program. Even the problems that aren’t mine to solve and those which I cannot solve encourage me to surrender and connect with my Higher Power. Today I see problems as gifts that shape me into becoming the great man I aspire to continue becoming. And when I live with the purpose of being the best, most loving man I can be… ILML! 

– JamieQ

Temporary Difficulties

“Today, there is absolutely nothing for you to worry about… know that you can depend on God.” – Until Today

Yesterday was a challenging day. The person putting our air conditioning in was extremely unpleasant, disrespectful and possibly mentally unstable. But he was the only guy I could afford. He was mean to both me and my wife. He was working and cussing until 11pm, but he finally got the house cold. It took every ounce of my program, and asking for strength from God constantly, not to lose it on him, but I stayed the course to get the house cool. Both my wife and I suffered PTSD from the episode and this morning I backed into her car with minor damage, but still. I was unnerved. Life happens and, yes, sometimes it’s not pretty. But it’s time to let go and focus on gratitude now. I have a house to stay in. I have a car to drive. I have a wife and kids that love me. I’m in good health and have enough money to pay my bills. When I really think about it, I am one of the luckiest, happiest, and most abundantly overpaid guys in the world and, regardless of a few temporary difficulties that I have to walk through occasionally … ILML! 

– JamieQ

Our Well-being is Guaranteed

“Practice breathing each time we feel anxiety over an outcome.” – Adapted from In God’s Care

When things feel like they aren’t going my way, I often tell others that my Higher Power says “Everything will be ok, in fact it will turn out great, trust me.” Then my Lower Power pipes in and says “No it won’t.” Guess who I’m listening to when I’m in fear? Trusting my Higher Powered voice is not always easy. Usually I’m very aware about expectations and immediately quash them by saying “I’ll be fine either way, I’m staying out of expectation, I know better.” But recently, around a financial issue, I forgot. And yesterday, when it didn’t turn out as I had expected, I was devestated. Not upset, devastated. I did everything in my power to change the outcome but I couldn’t. I suffered in fear all day. Today I awoke and was finally able to hear and trust my Higher Power’s voice. I remember now that my well-being is guaranteed, my life is rich with abundance, I am so blessed it’s unbelievable, and everything is better than okay, it’s fantastic. Because of this program, and everyone in it, I have been able to find and develop a relationship with a healthy higher power. I was given a new, better plan for living and today ILML! 

– JamieQ

A Small Patch of Lack

“I’m grateful I see the big picture today… I’m giving myself a chance to really succeed… I don’t focus on what is lacking. There is no growth in that… I love my life!” – Aaron
Above is an excerpt from Aaron’s gratitude list today. His words painted a story in my mind about the danger of focusing on lack. Here it is: 
There once was a farmer. He was happy with a beautiful family. His crops were growing well, his harvests were very abundant. Yet there was this one area where nothing would grow. He thought perhaps that some salt or pesticides had made it sterile. So he dug up the ground and brought over rich organic soil. No luck. Over the following days he tried everything to fix that patch . The days turned into weeks, the weeks into months, the months into years. The friends that used to come over to celebrate his abundant crops stopped dropping by, as his focus was all about that one small barren area of land. He tunnel vision of the problem prevented him from attending to the rest of his farm and finances. His other crops died. His wife couldn’t take it anymore. She left and took the kids. Eventually the bank came and took the farm. He had lost everything yet he still couldn’t stop thinking about that tiny piece of ungrowable land. He died broke, miserable and consumed with his lack. 
The moral of the story is that not only is there no growth in focusing on what is lacking in our life, but by focusing on what’s wrong we risk losing everything else that’s right and good in our life. I’m a very lucky person. The program has taught me to do everything necessary to stay in the Attitude of Gratitude, because when I do, ILML! 

– JamieQ

Asking for God-Guidance

“The love you imagine and desire will become yours only through a constancy of effort.” – Daphne Rose Kingma
A close friend of mine has been recently struggling with love. I’m talking about the kind of “being in love” love. And he’s not alone. I’ve heard over and over again from people who are not sure when to “let their love guard down”, when to say “I love you”, and when to allow themselves to fall in love. Oftentimes it’s hard to know if this is the “right” person for us, especially when we are looking for someone to marry and spend the rest of our lives with. Sometimes we’re too picky, sometimes not enough. The program can help. Recognizing we’re powerless over being “sure” and over what the other person does is the first step. Asking for God-Guidance, doing lots of journaling about it, confiding in a trusted, experienced person who has what we want, working on our relationship shortcomings and continually trying to amend our behavior is exactly how I use the program in my marriage. And it works! After 20 years, I’m still madly in love with my girl. Have we had problems, you bet! But by using the tools of the program we have made it so far. As for tomorrow… I’m responsible for the footwork, the results are in God’s hands. But one thing is for sure. When I surrender the illusion of control with my marriage, my wife and everything else… ILML! 

– JamieQ

It Works if You Work It

“Today, I will strive to let go of those wants and needs that are causing me frustration. I will enter them on my goal list, then … I will trust God.” — The Language of Letting Go 

I would add to this that it’s my responsibility to do the footwork – or take the action required – to manifest my desires. Makings lists and wishful thinking is not enough. I take to heart those words at the end of each meeting after the prayer, holding hands, with my fellow members “It works if you work it.” This adage applies to every facet of my life. Gratefully, today I’m not only willing to do what’s necessary to achieve my goals, but I also invest the time each and every day. As a result I have a tremendous amount of success and … ILML! 

– JamieQ

Always Cracks Me Up

“Because if your smile, you make life more beautiful.” – Thitch Nhat Hanh
Many of us struggle to laugh or even smile, for the simple reason that we can’t help but focus on the struggles and problems in our life. I have had problems before too. Kids in peril. An inoperable brain tumor. Financial ruin. Unbelievable levels of pain. Divorce. My little brother’s death. Being beaten up. People, places and things frequently not conforming to my expectations and desires. In spite of all these things, I smile, dance, sing and laugh everyday. How? Because I’ve decided that my life is just too short to waste it on being unhappy, regardless of what’s happening around me (or inside of me). So I start each day by turning on some music before getting into the shower, singing & dancing in front of the mirror—which always cracks me up—and then I yell out… ILML! 

– JamieQ