I Do Have Some Control

“If I cause my problems, then I can do something about them. But as long as I think someone or something else has caused my problems, I remain a victim who has no control over my life.” – Reaching for Personal Freedom 

This statement gives me the freedom to be happy — all the time. It’s true that I can’t stop others from saying and doing things that I don’t like, but I do have control as to how they affect me. By looking at my part, and I almost always have one, and making amends (no matter how big their wrongs) I can regain a tiny bit of control of the situation. By detaching from the situation, I make room for reflection in order to determine my future involvement with them, and whether or not I want to continue having one. If I’m not sure, I can reason it out with others who have healthy boundaries and relationships. When I take responsibility for my feelings, I stop blaming others, I’m no longer a victim and ILML! 

– JamieQ

Propelled into Gratitude

“I’m very grateful to AA for opening me up to constant spiritual experiences and the idea that there is an infinite source of power in the universe that I can tap into if my side of the street is clean. I love my Life!” – Mike, AA

I also interpret “Praying to God” (what used to be such uncomfortable words) as tapping into an infinite source of loving power. Before really embracing this program, my thoughts, words and actions used to emanate from a lower power – resentment, self-pity and fear. These days, when I’m on my recovery game and doing the daily deal, my thoughts, words and actions are grounded in a higher power, one that creates unlimited abundance in my life and propels me into gratitude. By being consistent in my program, my side of the street stays clean, I become a great man and my life gets so good that I can’t help but shout out “ILML!”

– JamieQ

Impervious to Dis-ease

“… when we harbored grudges… we were really beating ourselves with the club of anger…” – AA p.47

Nelson Mandela said “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” Buddha said “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Getting upset is not the problem – holding onto it is what creates our misery. So why is it so hard to let go? Because we get infected, just like a virus. If our spiritual immunity system is not at its peak, when others spew out their spiritual sickness, we drop down to their level and get sick too. The solution for me is to be consistent in my spiritual devotions so that I’m filled with so much gratitude and love that I’m impervious to dis-ease. Today I’m feeling  spiritually fit and ILML! 

– JamieQ

I Am Loved

“Let go and let God, first things first, easy does it – do but do it, let it begin with me, I’d rather be happy than right… grant me the serenity to live by our sayings.” – In God’s Care

When things are going smooth, when I’m rested, spiritually and physically fit, when I’ve eaten well and everything’s going my way, it’s easy to live by these sayings. It’s those other times that it’s more challenging. When I can’t fix a problem. When I’m overwhelmed. When someone is wronging me. These are the times I need to remember the words I hear so often in our program. Pausing gives me the opportunity to remember them. Today, if I’m not “feeling it”, I’ll slow down, take a few breaths, and remember how truly great my life is and that I am loved. ILML!  

– JamieQ

A Vortex of Self-pity

“When things appear to be falling apart, a chattering imp will find its way into your head… If you listen to the imp, you will eventually be convinced that there is a fire breathing dragon waiting at every turn to devour you.” – Until Today

Anything that happens which I don’t like, takes me out of my comfort zone and puts me in dis-ease. That’s the moment that Impy starts chattering in my brain. He points out how bad it is, how bad it’s been, how bad it’s going to be. He sends me down a vortex of self-pity and resentment and shuts me off from all the goodness in my life. What’s the solution? Stop. Breathe. Make a gratitude list. Meditate. Connect with source. Call an optimistic friend. And most importantly, don’t react. Forget the problem for a minute. The answers will come. Things will get better if I simply work my program and take one step at a time. When I’m in the solution, ILML! 

– JamieQ

Possibilities Emerge

“Life doesn’t always go smoothly or peacefully, even though I might wish it would…. (but) when I face adversity and deal with my problems… every problem can help me to change for the better, deepen my faith, and add to my self-esteem. – Courage to Change 

No matter what happens in my life, once I’m willing to get into the solution, do the footwork, and practice the principles, things always get better. My attitude and perception shifts and possibilities for acceptance and change begin to emerge. Before I know it, I’m feeling grateful. And when I’m back in gratitude, ILML! 

– JamieQ

Simple as That

“… letting go of our need to control… not setting ourselves up to be victims… setting healthy boundaries… (these are the tools) that help us improve the quality of all our relationships.” – The Language of Letting Go 

I think we all want to get along better with others. The problem for me was that, in order to do so, I wanted everyone else to change. If only they changed, we’d be happy. It’s true that, to some extent, both parties need to adapt and change in order to keep a relationship healthy. But I’m successful in my relationships today because I stopped expecting, hoping and trying to make them change. Instead, I learned that I can create the initial change by practicing program principles in my relationships. Once I am exhibiting healthy behaviors, they have the option to reciprocate… or not. If they do, I’ll stay in the relationship. In not, I’ll leave. Simple as that. When I work my program and set healthy boundaries, my relationships are awesome and ILML! 

– JamieQ