Work a GREAT Program

“What keeps me from surrendering to a God of my understanding?” – Reaching for Personal Freedom 

First off, the HP I’ve made up for myself is all about goodness, gratitude and love. Secondly, I believe the answer lies in another question, namely “When difficult situations arise or when I’m in fear, how can I instantly connect, trust and be guided by a higher power rather than react, blame and try to control people, places and things?” The answer for me is simple. Work a GREAT program every single day. When I do that… ILML! 

– JamieQ

THIS is How ILML!

“Let us be done with faultfinding…” – 12 Step Prayer Book 

I would say that, of all the defects of character available, faultfinding is pretty far up on the list. Whether I’m finding fault in others, myself or situations, faultfinding always leads to being less happy. I’m much better off staying in my hula hoop, focusing on gratitude and insisting on being happy regardless of anything. So today I’ll stop finding the faults and instead look for the goodness all around me. THIS is how ILML! 

– JamieQ

I Fully Love Myself

“How do we love ourselves? By acting ‘as if’, forgiving ourselves quickly, giving ourselves treats, being good to ourselves, not depriving ourselves. One day we’ll wake up, look in the mirror, and really love the person looking back at us.” – Adapted from The Language of Letting Go 

I have been practicing letting go of those negative and self-defeating thoughts about me now for almost 14 years and not only do I fully love myself and the man I’m continuing to become, but ILML! 

– JamieQ

Practice Awareness

In spite of the promise of joy that comes from our acts of kindness, the temptations to be self-centered, to hurt others, to fight to get our way, still rear their seductive hands. – In God’s Care

The longer I work this program, the more aware I am of the thoughts circulating inside my mind. “Wow, that’s a nice rainbow”, “hope my bank account is ok”, “did that guy just cut me off?” My thoughts can shift from gratitude to resentment to self-pity and back to gratitude very quickly. Awareness allows me to let go of thoughts that put me in dis-ease, and enjoy all the others. Today I’ll practice awareness of my thoughts so that ILML! 

– JamieQ

Even in my Darkest Days

“My new life in recovery is built upon a spiritual foundation. Although the ground may quiver, regardless of how shaky I feel, I will not fall. I am safe.”- Adapted from Courage to Change 

Even before I was able to accept the idea of a higher power in my life, before I found a higher power of my understanding, before I stepped up my game and really formed a partnership with my higher power, I was being taken care of without knowing it. I was protected, even in my darkest days. There was a purpose for the struggle, one that prepared me to guide others into the light. And so I say these simple words often to my HP: “Thank you.” ILML! 

– JamieQ

Gratitude Lists Rock

“When I remember my gratitude list, it’s very hard to conclude that God is picking on me.” – Daily Relections

I try to do a gratitude list every day of my life. And luckily, I’m surrounded by others in recovery that keep me accountable. I’m in an email G-list group with Adam, John and Frank. I’m in an email G-list text group with Chris, Elle, Russ, Robert and Vida. Mike sends me his every day. Joe, John, Tahir, Clayton, Christoper, Allen, Tom, Aundre, and Ely periodically send me their G-lists. And I send out my G-list to another 23 people as well. I love being in the Attitude of Gratitude and.. ILML! 

– JamieQ

Like a Cyclone

“We are going to know a need freedom and a new happiness.” – Daily Reflections

Every once in awhile I reflect on what life used to be like when the insidious grip of alcohol and drugs dominated my life and the lives of my family. I grew up in an environment where drinking and getting high was glamorized for parents, kids, teachers and even grandparents. The effects were ravenous. Like a cyclone, they destroyed every relationship they touched. Money and marriages were thrown away and I was angry at everyone and everything, including myself. The program has given me a freedom and happiness that I will forever be grateful for. ILML! 

– JamieQ