“Emotional independence means deciding to have a good day no matter how others are feeling, no longer punishing others for past behavior or pouting, and not staying upset simply because the person we love is upset.”
– Adapted from You Can’t Make Me Angry p112-113
Wow, this is really tough for me and shines a light on my codependent habits. I’ve always wanted those I love to be happy, and often futilely try to “fix their feelings”. Whether I actually have a part in their hurt or anger, my attachment to their feelings should end with my amends. Afterwards I need only work my program to the best of my ability, in an attempt to be happy, joyous and free in each and every one of the remaining minutes, hours, days or years that I am blessed to be alive. Today I’ll care but not carry around their unhappiness. Instead I’ll focus on goodness, love and abundance so I can LML as much as possible! Have an epic day!
Thank you for visiting my site and leaving your kind words about the loss of our pet. He may have been small (!) but we loved him and we will miss him. To be honest it is a grief process my children haven’t been through before so in that sense it’s healthy that they can be introduced to these feelings with a pet rather than a family member or a friend, which naturally would be much harder.
Thank you once again.