“… we usually have at least a moment to breathe deeply and restore our serenity and peace.” – The Language of Letting Go
I have a friend of mine who seems to keep a calm composure far frequently than most. Though I’ve seen him get upset, it’s rare.
One day I noticed that he seems to take these long, big breaths often times when asked a question, and before answering. Once I actually timed it in my mind. Including the word “well…,” spoken slowly after the breath and before he spoke any other words, it was a 16 second pause!
So I finally got the nerve up and asked him,”What’s that all about?”
As I suspected, he told me that was his way of giving himself enough time to appropriately respond rather than react. Basically, he’s gracing the space between the impulse to say something he may regret, and instead speak while practicing equanimity.
More and more I’ve been practicing this little trick, and each time I do, I’m improving my chances that… ILML!