“Ideas, emotions, and attitudes which were once the guiding forces … are suddenly cast to one side, and a completely new set of conceptions and motives begin …” Big Book p.27
This is the case for me. All of my preconceived notions were torn down and replaced by a new purpose and set of values. I went from “I want” to “how can I give, and when is it appropriate to do so”.
In giving I receive, and in allowing others to do for themselves when it’s appropriate to detach, I also receive. As a result I have a full, wonderful existence and ILML!