What am I Worth?

“Money is important… we will be paid what we’re worth when we believe we deserve to be.” – The Language of Letting Go 

This reading is really more about not putting money in front of spiritual growth, which I don’t do. However, what resonated for me is that I’ve struggled with the my self worth when it comes to asking for compensation from others. I often ask to be paid much less than what I know I’m worth for my services. Why?  I’m scared if I ask for what I’m worth that they will say no, and I’ll lose their business. It’s time for me to have faith.  The next time I’m asked to quote a project, I’ll go out on a limb and quote them what I’m really worth and trust whatever happens. Because, when I let go and have unconditional faith around money, everything happens exactly as it’s supposed to and ILML! 

– JamieQ

Make Changes to be Happy

“Since defective relations with other human beings have nearly always been the cause of our woes…see those flaws… which sometimes were responsible for the whole pattern of our lives.” – 12&12 p.80

Are you tired of blaming others for your pain and suffering? Are you tired of asking others nicely to please not say or do hurtful things? Are you discouraged that it’s hopeless and they will never change? Well I’ve got news for you —chances are you’re right, they won’t change. But here’s the good news: You can make changes to be happy regardless. You can set boundaries. You can take actions when boundaries aren’t respected. You can detach with love. You can love your life, even if they don’t change. If you haven’t yet identified the changes you can make to feel better, try taking a fearless moral inventory and share it with someone who loves life. Get suggestions from them on changes you can make to improve your life. Then take the suggestions. These are the steps I’ve done many times — and continue to do — which bring me peace, and as a result, ILML! 

– JamieQ

Able to Love Myself

“My body is a gift to me from my Higher Power. Maintaining it in the best possible condition is my response to God’s gift… Thank You for my body.” — Food for Thought

We don’t talk too much about taking care of our body in our program. But without the body we wouldn’t exist. Prior to recovery, I treated my body like a punching bag, testing how hard I could abuse it without making me sick or dying. These days, I spend a fair amount of time thinking about my health and taking actions to stay healthy. I eat better foods in smaller portions, and I stretch and exercise almost every day. I certainly don’t do it perfectly. However, being consistently kind to my body pays off big dividends in both my self-esteem and my attitude. And when I’m able to love myself and act kindly towards others, abundance in every area flows into me and ILML! 

– JamieQ

I Do Have Some Control

“If I cause my problems, then I can do something about them. But as long as I think someone or something else has caused my problems, I remain a victim who has no control over my life.” – Reaching for Personal Freedom 

This statement gives me the freedom to be happy — all the time. It’s true that I can’t stop others from saying and doing things that I don’t like, but I do have control as to how they affect me. By looking at my part, and I almost always have one, and making amends (no matter how big their wrongs) I can regain a tiny bit of control of the situation. By detaching from the situation, I make room for reflection in order to determine my future involvement with them, and whether or not I want to continue having one. If I’m not sure, I can reason it out with others who have healthy boundaries and relationships. When I take responsibility for my feelings, I stop blaming others, I’m no longer a victim and ILML! 

– JamieQ

Propelled into Gratitude

“I’m very grateful to AA for opening me up to constant spiritual experiences and the idea that there is an infinite source of power in the universe that I can tap into if my side of the street is clean. I love my Life!” – Mike, AA

I also interpret “Praying to God” (what used to be such uncomfortable words) as tapping into an infinite source of loving power. Before really embracing this program, my thoughts, words and actions used to emanate from a lower power – resentment, self-pity and fear. These days, when I’m on my recovery game and doing the daily deal, my thoughts, words and actions are grounded in a higher power, one that creates unlimited abundance in my life and propels me into gratitude. By being consistent in my program, my side of the street stays clean, I become a great man and my life gets so good that I can’t help but shout out “ILML!”

– JamieQ

Impervious to Dis-ease

“… when we harbored grudges… we were really beating ourselves with the club of anger…” – AA p.47

Nelson Mandela said “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” Buddha said “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Getting upset is not the problem – holding onto it is what creates our misery. So why is it so hard to let go? Because we get infected, just like a virus. If our spiritual immunity system is not at its peak, when others spew out their spiritual sickness, we drop down to their level and get sick too. The solution for me is to be consistent in my spiritual devotions so that I’m filled with so much gratitude and love that I’m impervious to dis-ease. Today I’m feeling  spiritually fit and ILML! 

– JamieQ

I Am Loved

“Let go and let God, first things first, easy does it – do but do it, let it begin with me, I’d rather be happy than right… grant me the serenity to live by our sayings.” – In God’s Care

When things are going smooth, when I’m rested, spiritually and physically fit, when I’ve eaten well and everything’s going my way, it’s easy to live by these sayings. It’s those other times that it’s more challenging. When I can’t fix a problem. When I’m overwhelmed. When someone is wronging me. These are the times I need to remember the words I hear so often in our program. Pausing gives me the opportunity to remember them. Today, if I’m not “feeling it”, I’ll slow down, take a few breaths, and remember how truly great my life is and that I am loved. ILML!  

– JamieQ