Unexpected Opportunities

“Just for today, move beyond the expectations of others. Dare to be bigger, better, bolder than anyone ever imagined. Surprise yourself!” – Until Today 

I’m a creature of habit. Every morning at Starbucks I order a Venti Chai Latte, Xtra hot, no water, whole milk, no foam, with whip and cinnamon. I like my days to go exactly the way I plan them. But when I’m too set on a specific course of action, there’s no room for spontaneity. In other words, when I’m running the show, there’s no room for my higher power’s ideas. Which also means my eyes aren’t open to unexpected opportunities. Today I’m going to work a little harder, go the extra-extra mile, and try a few new things. My goal is to surprise myself and exceed my self-expectations. By opening myself up to new, fun experiences and opportunities, ILML! 

– JamieQ

I Am Incredible

“… Make another list of your behaviors entitled: All The Ways I Am Incredible… appreciate  yourself for the miraculous being you are.” – Attitudes of Gratitude in Love 

My Dis-ease is often very busy with put downs and criticism – not only of others but of myself. Being aware of how judgemental I can be, it’s important for me to reverse that negativity by identifying some of my goodness. And while I’m at it, I invite you to do the same and share it with me. Here are ten things I love about… me: (1) I am super loving, (2) I am a very hard worker, (3) I have integrity, (4) I walk my talk, (5) I take great care of my body and health, (6) I love myself tremendously,(7) I’m extremely loyal, (8) I’m a great daddy, (9) I’m a loving husband, (10) I’m a certified life lover through and through. Making that list reinforces that, indeed, ILML! Send me yours! 

– JamieQ

Insist on Loving Life!

“Obstacles cannot keep me from finding the good in my life and following where it leads. Nothing can get in the way of this – unless I allow it….” – One Day at a Time in Al-Anon p.185

Wow. That quote really says it all. Nothing, absolutely nothing, can get in the way of me loving life with every ounce of my being, unless I allow it. I simply need to recognize the moment I feel some thing, thought or person trying to pull me away from loving life and make the decision: Nope. Sorry. Not taking the bait. Loving life is more important. Then I simply detach from that thing, thought or person that is either intentionally or unintentionally trying to take me down. If it’s a person, likely they will be unhappy that I’m not joining their drama, but that’s ok – that too shall pass. What’s important is that I detach from negativity and INSIST ON LOVING LIFE!!!! ILML!

– JamieQ

Note: Special thanks to Adam T who sent me the quote today!

Go with The Flow

“We must endure surprises, pressures, and blows from the world as a normal part of life. The more able we are to absorb the blows, the stronger and more whole we are as men. Perhaps our higher power is leading us to a better plan. Frustrations with spouses or friends can be turned over to our higher power. We do not have a rigid recipe for life, and we must be open to more learning.”– Touchstones 8/23

This program has taught me how to “go with the flow”. How to not be married to how I think my day should go. The more I am connected to my higher power, the more I am able to take things as they come, as guides which help me make decisions, or indicators pointing me towards my next indicated action. The more I have faith that everything is happening to me for a reason, the more I can be in acceptance. And that keeps me happy, joyous, and free on a daily basis. I love this program. ILML!

– JasonW

Know so I can Grow

“I will probably make a mistake of some sort every day of my life. If I view this as a personal failing or pretend that no mistakes have occurred, I make my life unmanageable. When I stop struggling to be perfect and admit when I am wrong, I can let go of guilt and shame.” – Courage to Change 

Fear of being wrong is the root of my righteousness, a very unattractive trait. These days, when it comes to making mistakes, I’d rather know so I can grow. But I love myself enough to discontinue relationships with those that are aggressive or abusive towards me when I’m less than perfect. Likewise I’m gentle with myself and others when mistakes are made. The truth is, we’re all perfectly imperfect. Accepting or giving out shame and guilt are no longer options for me in recovery. The more I surrender the need to be right, the more ILML! 

– JamieQ 

Allow Them to be Right

“Would you rather be right or happy?” – Anonymous

Why can’t I be right and happy? If I understand and know something to be true, isn’t that okay? Yes! Doing the next right thing makes me happy. Guessing how to fix something or solve a problem to discover I’m right is awesome. Where I get into trouble is when being right makes someone else wrong. When I’m right, they’re wrong and they feel like a loser – and making them feel like that is mean. I must stop trying to help, educate or defend myself by being right. I’m much happier when I just allow them to be right. If they’re not, they’ll figure it out without my help. By resigning from the debating society, ILML! 
– JamieQ

From Misery To Rapture

“Faith sees the invisible, believes the unbelievable, and receives the impossible… Worry is a cycle of inefficient thoughts whirling around a center of fear… Love is the strongest force in the world.” – Cornelia “Corrie” ten Boom (1892-1983)

The woman who wrote those words was a Dutch watchmaker who helped many Jews escape the Nazi Holocaust and was imprisoned for her actions. Think about what she must have faced in her life. Released from a concentration camp days after her sister died there, she then, through her writings and appearances, became an inspiration to millions of people in overcoming their struggles. Sort of reminds us of what we do in the program right? We surrender, join the winning team, work the steps, go from misery to rapture, carry the message to others, then watch THEM go from misery to rapture, and the cycle ripples out into the world. I have been given a gift. When I share it with others, ILML! 

– JamieQ