“Tolerance… is the bigness that enables me to let people be happy in their own way instead of my way.” – 12 Step Prayer Book
We all have fun in different ways. I like to surf, skate, be productive, work, do my rituals, sleep in ice-cold air conditioning, fellowship with others in the program, hike, exercise and spend time with my family. Some of these my wife enjoys, but many she doesn’t. Likewise, my wife enjoys many things that I don’t like. I used to try to get her to like the fun things I thought were great and let go of those I judged as not so great. The truth is I love that she is different — if she was exactly like me our relationship would be boring. A slight shift in my perception can bring in a flow of gratitude, put a smile on my face and remind me that ILML!