“If you recognize yourself in the description of the self-critic, the best thing you can do for yourself and your marriage is to work on accepting yourself with all of your flaws.” – John Gottman’s Seven Principles

I have made a choice to love myself “warts n’ all.” There are some times that exertion of strength and enormous efforts are helpful and necessary, but that is not the only instrument in my recovery toolbox. I wouldn’t utilize a jackhammer when a jeweler’s screwdriver is indicated. In the same manner, especially in dealings with my inner saboteur, I have found it crucial to remember that I am perfectly imperfect. As a human and a miraculous creature indeed, I am a creative, intelligent, mistake making and loveable being.

– Aloha Mike