“Giving advice, making decisions for others, mapping out their strategy, is not our job.” – The Language of Letting Go
The temptation to help others, particularly those we love, is great. And helping can be a great thing, provided the other person specifically and directly asks for our help. That’s the key right there. Saving others from grief, struggle or hardship when they haven’t asked for our wisdom or assistance prevents them from failure, struggle, pain, and accomplishment. That last thing, accomplishment, is what gives them self esteem and allows them to build on success. Experiencing pain and struggle is part of that process. Today I will stop trying to manage, save, direct or control others. Instead I’ll help only if asked. By staying in my hula hoop, ILML!