“Detaching in love can only happen when we decide to stop trying to make them act or treat us differently. Self-care begins when we decide to no longer allow their words or actions to control our feelings.” – Adapted from The Language of Letting Go
Of course, this is much harder than it sounds. Not taking things personally, particularly when they are personal attacks, requires me to be on top of my spiritual, emotional and physical game. If I’m hungry, angry, lonely or tired, I’ll react. If I’m not in a place of gratitude, I’ll react. And even if I’m at the peak of enlightenment, I still may react, because I’m human. The good news is – these days – I respond kindly and detach in love more often than reacting. And whenever I’m able to keep the focus on me, and insist on being happy, ILML!