“He who cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself.” – George Herbert
Our program talks a little bit about forgiveness. The 12&12 quotes the St. Francis Prayer “that where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness” and later “It is by forgiving that one is forgiven”. The Big Book says “We asked God to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend,” and to approach those we dislike in a helpful and forgiving spirit. And at the end of some meetings we say in the Lord’s Prayer “Forgive us our trespasses AS we forgive those who trespass against us.” But forgiving can be difficult. For me it comes down to not wanting to be connected to their toxicity anymore. So I forgive (not absolve), and give them to my HP. Because, it’s only when I let go of all my resentments that ILML!