Becoming a Better Man

“Remember, Bill, let’s not louse this thing up. Let’s keep it simple.” – Last words of Dr. Bob to Bill W. (co-founders of AA) on Bob’s deathbed

At 20 years sober I knew how to stay abstinent but I needed a specific list of actions I could take every day that would help me become a great man and love my life. So I started doing ‘The Daily Deal’. Upon awakening I smile, open my eyes and say ‘thank you’. In bed I meditate and then do 5 minutes of yoga. I roll out of bed, onto my knees and pray. I do my affirmations. I yell out ILML! I exercise and then make the bed. I shower, groom and dress nicely while I sing, and dance, and smile. I clean house. I grab my spiritual backpack, go to Starbucks, order a Chai Latte and journal, making amends if I realize I have hurt someone. I read from recovery books, send out a gratitude list, then a message of recovery to others. I yell out ILML in my car as I head to work to be self-supporting. I engage in hobbies like playing guitar. I get to meetings at least 3 or 4 times a week. I share intimacy with, and am unselfishly of service to, others in AA, my family and friends. I attempt to behave responsibly and be both accountable and trustworthy. Before bed, I take a bath. I read for pleasure. I thank my HP for another great day and then say aloud ILML! I get 8 hours of sleep. By having, and sticking to, a system of recovery that works for me, I keep it simple, evolve into a better man each day and ILML! 

– JamieQ

2 thoughts on “Becoming a Better Man

  1. I always enjoy your posts. I’ve been reading them since I was a few weeks sober. I’ll have a year and a half on 2/24. It’s amazing how these good healthy habits become commonplace in sobriety. I’ve quit smoking and I read something that feed my soul each day. As a full time working mom, I only make it to two meetings a week. I’m okay with that. I love that you mentioned yoga. It’s the one thing that I t really love that I just haven’t made/found the time for. I decided that I am going to make my bathroom a yoga space too. It’s huge and pretty and it has good light. Thank you for all you do. ILML too.


    • Sorry it took so long to get back to you, somehow I’m missing the comment notifications on this blog. I’m so happy you enjoy the posts and, we’ll since it’s now 4/14, HAPPY 1.5 BIRTHDAY! So stoked you’re a life lover too, and I started yoga with just a few stretches in bed in the morning, and it’s become a daily deal. Have an awesome day!


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