“…when we get stuck in a rut of negativity about our mate, all the loving things that he or she is actually doing may be invisible to us. Assume the best about your partner. Otherwise you may end up throwing away something of value because you have deemed it worthless.” – YCMMA p92
This is very important for me in all relationships. When I focus on good, good happens. Along with setting healthy boundaries, it seems good relationships are inevitable with this attitude. Ilml!
“in order to truly practice gratitude in love, we have to know where our limits are, what is acceptable to us. Sometimes for our own good and the good of the family, we must turn our attention to the negative behavior and set a boundary – beyond this I will not go.” – Attitudes of Gratitude p88
I have learned in the Program to set boundaries. I didn’t set boundaries nor did I respect others boundaries before. My relationships then were dysfunctional to say the least. This quote is a good reminder for me. Ilml!
Drop the Rock says “…courage is fear that’s said it’s prayers.”
I love that saying. Often I don’t even know I’m in fear, just feeling funky or uncomfortable. When I pause long enough to ask myself if how I feel might be related to a fear, I usually become enlightened. Then it’s simply a matter of saying, “Hey God, I realize I’m not feeling good ’cause I’m scared about this. You’re so good to me and have given me such a great life. I have faith that you will help me with this too. Thanks!”
Sounds silly but 9 out of 10 times, these simple words, when spoken aloud, actually make me feel a million times better. Which let’s me get back to loving my life. Hope you had an epic day!
“I can’t achieve the degree of health I want by using yesterday’s program. I’ve found if I’m not moving forward, I don’t just stand still; I go backwards.” – H4T p.46
I have experienced this as a result of complacency so many times, that’s I’ve become highly aware: when I’m uncomfortable it’s time to pick up literature, pray, meditate, call someone in the program, be of service, do step-work or get to a meeting. Today I have so many tools at my disposal. Staying in discomfort is simply ridiculous. Lately I’m lucky I’ve been working my program and loving my life. Hope you are too!
“If I want to become skillful at applying the program to my life, I need to do more than go to the occasional meeting. I must make a commitment and practice, practice, practice.” – C2C p46
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle
My life has changed dramatically from practicing the principles of this program. The guidance I get from my sponsors and meetings is what has given me the tools to practice. I’m grateful I was desperate enough and have been willing to take direction for many years. Ilml!
When reacting in love becomes more important than winning, the fear of losing disappears.
Today love is my focus. Winning is not. ILML!
From Attitudes of Gratitude: “The more loving we are, the more love we feel”.
A great message for Valentine’s Day. As wondrous as the love from relationships is, we can also experience love in so many other ways. Loving nature, loving the gift of life, sobriety, sleeping, eating, sight, taste, the sun on our face are just a few. By living consciously aware of so much to love, loving all of it, and sharing our love of life with others, we get to celebrate our passion of being alive with everyone we come into contact with. Spreading our life loving mantra all over the world. Happy Valentines Day and thanks for sharing your love of life with me.
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