“… from confiding our defects to another … damned-up emotions of years break their confinement, and miraculously vanish, a healing tranquility takes its place.” – 12&12, Step 5
Those hurtful things I’ve done or said, whether justified or not, corrode my heart and soul, destroying my physical health. Happiness, peace and serenity are utterly unattainable unless and until I willingly admit my wrongs and make efforts at setting them right. Does this take courage? You bet! Our instinct is to blame them. But by moving my field of focus from ‘what they did to me’ to ‘how I may have hurt them’ I am able to start the healing process. Are amends required from me? Most likely. But once that’s over, guess what? ILML again!