“If we blame others… we continue to live as victims.” – Reaching for Personal Freedom
I grew up in a family with lots of children. The kid that cried the loudest, got the most attention. Oftentimes, that was me. I knew how to game the system. Being the victim may have served my desire for attention as a child, but as an adult, it’s no fun. Victims are unhappy, hurt and angry – quite the opposite of how I prefer to feel. So why does blaming make us a victim? Because it renders us powerless. If it’s their fault, I can’t do anything about it. Instead, I’ve learned to empower myself by shifting my focus off of what they did, or what happened that’s out of my control, step away from the problem, and focus on the solution – gratitide. I’m done playing the victim game. It’s much more fun when ILML!