“…like an actor who wants to run the whole show… if only people would… The show doesn’t come off… we step on the toes of our fellows… they retaliate… our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making.” – AA p.60-61
That’s the story of my life right there – or at least most of the problems I’ve had in it. I’ve found that pretty much everyone, at some point, wants to run the show, and they tend to want to do it at the same moment someone else does.
Although there are times when we do need to be in control (driving a car, guiding young children, taking care of my responsibilities), with respect to the choices that others make, I find that it’s best for me to step out of the limelight and allow them to be in charge of their own destiny, regardless of whether I agree with their decisions or not. Doing this is the easier, softer way, and when I do so, I’m employing just another tool that allows me to remember why ILML!