“Anger, resentment and guilt is often the result of saying ‘Yes,” when we meant to say ‘No.’ Do I want to continue denying my own feelings just to gain the approval of others? Or am I fed up with volunteering to be a doormat?” – Adapted from Courage to Change
Sometimes I do things I don’t feel like doing because it’s my responsibility or I’m willing to help others who have helped me. That’s ok. But sometimes I do things I don’t want to do, which I shouldn’t be doing. By doing so, I am volunteering to be their doormat. In these situations, the only way to develop self-respect, and the respect of others, is to ‘Just Say No.’ They will be unhappy. But they’ll also learn that I am strong, independent and healthy. AlAnon has helped me discovery my own boundaries and let others know how I will handle myself I they choose not to honor them. Being true to myself is one more way that ILML!