Strapped to a Stretcher

“When we refuse air, light, or food, the body suffers. And when we turn away from meditation and prayer, we likewise deprive our minds, emotions, and our intuitions of vitally needed support.” – 12&12 p.97

Vitally needed support. That must be something like life support. Imagine needing to be hooked up to life support machines every time we express anger in a way that hurts others. Or when we fall into victimization and self-pity. Or when we react to everyone and everything instead of pausing long enough to respond kindly. Suddenly the paramedics would show up and strap us down to a stretcher, thrust a needle into our heart to revive us, put us on oxygen, and hook us up to an IV to get fluids flowing back into our body. I prefer to avoid all that chaos, drama, pain and suffering by sticking to a rigorous, daily program of spiritual action, which results in a high quality of emotional health. Because when I take those simple actions… ILML! 

– JamieQ

Our Well-being is Guaranteed

“Practice breathing each time we feel anxiety over an outcome.” – Adapted from In God’s Care

When things feel like they aren’t going my way, I often tell others that my Higher Power says “Everything will be ok, in fact it will turn out great, trust me.” Then my Lower Power pipes in and says “No it won’t.” Guess who I’m listening to when I’m in fear? Trusting my Higher Powered voice is not always easy. Usually I’m very aware about expectations and immediately quash them by saying “I’ll be fine either way, I’m staying out of expectation, I know better.” But recently, around a financial issue, I forgot. And yesterday, when it didn’t turn out as I had expected, I was devestated. Not upset, devastated. I did everything in my power to change the outcome but I couldn’t. I suffered in fear all day. Today I awoke and was finally able to hear and trust my Higher Power’s voice. I remember now that my well-being is guaranteed, my life is rich with abundance, I am so blessed it’s unbelievable, and everything is better than okay, it’s fantastic. Because of this program, and everyone in it, I have been able to find and develop a relationship with a healthy higher power. I was given a new, better plan for living and today ILML! 

– JamieQ

A Small Patch of Lack

“I’m grateful I see the big picture today… I’m giving myself a chance to really succeed… I don’t focus on what is lacking. There is no growth in that… I love my life!” – Aaron
Above is an excerpt from Aaron’s gratitude list today. His words painted a story in my mind about the danger of focusing on lack. Here it is: 
There once was a farmer. He was happy with a beautiful family. His crops were growing well, his harvests were very abundant. Yet there was this one area where nothing would grow. He thought perhaps that some salt or pesticides had made it sterile. So he dug up the ground and brought over rich organic soil. No luck. Over the following days he tried everything to fix that patch . The days turned into weeks, the weeks into months, the months into years. The friends that used to come over to celebrate his abundant crops stopped dropping by, as his focus was all about that one small barren area of land. He tunnel vision of the problem prevented him from attending to the rest of his farm and finances. His other crops died. His wife couldn’t take it anymore. She left and took the kids. Eventually the bank came and took the farm. He had lost everything yet he still couldn’t stop thinking about that tiny piece of ungrowable land. He died broke, miserable and consumed with his lack. 
The moral of the story is that not only is there no growth in focusing on what is lacking in our life, but by focusing on what’s wrong we risk losing everything else that’s right and good in our life. I’m a very lucky person. The program has taught me to do everything necessary to stay in the Attitude of Gratitude, because when I do, ILML! 

– JamieQ

Asking for God-Guidance

“The love you imagine and desire will become yours only through a constancy of effort.” – Daphne Rose Kingma
A close friend of mine has been recently struggling with love. I’m talking about the kind of “being in love” love. And he’s not alone. I’ve heard over and over again from people who are not sure when to “let their love guard down”, when to say “I love you”, and when to allow themselves to fall in love. Oftentimes it’s hard to know if this is the “right” person for us, especially when we are looking for someone to marry and spend the rest of our lives with. Sometimes we’re too picky, sometimes not enough. The program can help. Recognizing we’re powerless over being “sure” and over what the other person does is the first step. Asking for God-Guidance, doing lots of journaling about it, confiding in a trusted, experienced person who has what we want, working on our relationship shortcomings and continually trying to amend our behavior is exactly how I use the program in my marriage. And it works! After 20 years, I’m still madly in love with my girl. Have we had problems, you bet! But by using the tools of the program we have made it so far. As for tomorrow… I’m responsible for the footwork, the results are in God’s hands. But one thing is for sure. When I surrender the illusion of control with my marriage, my wife and everything else… ILML! 

– JamieQ